Loneliness ... another problem 'more with men' ::::: Share, care and fight it out but ready to help hostel mates are so common !!

 Have you heard - Man is born alone and will die alone ??

But the real issue is Man also lives Alone. Or such numbers are increasing. Technology and modern ethics and value systems are also responsible.

Loneliness can 'arise' from not feeling seen or understood.

Depression out of loneliness can come from 'spending time' with people who don’t share your values or interests. So a nagging wife around or also being with kids one may feel neglected and automatically aloof and isolated/deserted.

It may increase all the more if son or daughter 'hates' everything you believed.

Imagine the son telling "Nafrat hae mujhe duniya ka har woh kanoon jise mera baap manta hae" 

Thus 'being lonely' as a 'feeling' can also come from too many superficial interactions and not enough deeper connections.

There's another thing. Man likes to play dominant.

Well, Domination, is something that the insecure seek as a means to generate confidence; the truly confident do not need it. We live in a cynical age. 

It’s up to us – they say -- to "men" – to change some of the narratives.

There is an assumption that 'feeling alone' does not go along when is "surrounded" by family and colleagues and friends. However, this is untrue.

Social isolation and loneliness are inter-linked ?

Yes and No !! 

Experts say these two terms are often used interchangeably, but they are  different.

In a way Loneliness is a subjective experience of "disconnect". Perhaps it is more with men. Being introvert may make it worse. Women are generally not introvert. Wives will be hardly in that category. 

But 'Social isolation' as we understand the term is an "objective state" of being alone. 

Even a family man can be lonely because - he may feel he is 'not understood'. By nature - I suppose women will not fall into that category because they know how to 'impose' themselves upon others.

For a mother -- children are easy victims.

For a wife - it is the helpless creature called husband, hubby and even 'pati paremeshwar' or joru ka ghulam -- as per desi definitions.  

ion. This means that you could be around other people, yet still feel lonely.

Why might that be? Loneliness can arise from not feeling seen, understood, or validated. It can come from spending time with people who don’t share your values or interests. It can also come from too many superficial interactions and not enough deeper connections.  

It is presumably 'tough' to begin deep friendships later on in life, once we are far away from the crucible of shared classrooms.

The university campuses and office set ups often appear so artificial.

Things again change a lot with hostel life.

Share, care and fight it out but ready to help room mates and hostel friends are often the order of the day. You live and enjoy every bit of it. Where's the time to feel lonely ?

Your life is incomplete if one has not stayed away from parents especially in a hostel !!

However, it also depends on individuals to "change" some aspects of life and friendship of communication within a family.

That's a simple rule -- avoid -- facing a glass ceiling !! Do not play self-victimhood. If you feel nothing good has ever happened to you -- be sure -nothing good will happen in future.

Rather - the common thing called 'depression' will set in when one is surrouned by people who are too many superficial in their behaviour and conduct.

What a man actually needs more is 'deeper connections' -- these are something not appreciated. There may be another typical scenario. This is also a fast emerging trend. 

Imagine a world -- where you are seeking divorce from your  wife. And your teen aged daughter and two adult sons have sided with their mother.

You are left deserted - almost an orphan.

You have been left in the cold.

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